An All-Consuming Love Affair… 2


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I have been madly in love since March 2003, and the relationship has consumed the better part of my life since. I’ve been faithful, devoted and committed to the relationship since that “love at first sight” moment, and I state without reservation that my love, devotion and commitment has grown stronger every day. The degree of love that I have in the relationship is so strong that I can’t remember what my life was like before we met, and I’m always trying to come up with new ways to demonstrate my commitment. Because the love I have is so deep, innovative and creative ways of expressing my love and devotion seem to come to me with relative ease. I’m wonderfully, and excitedly, head over heels in love and it is both liberating and joyful for me to be making such a public and passionate declaration…

I promise to be faithful and true always…to love you with every fiber of my being, every waking moment of my life because of the impact you’ve made in my life. Only two other events in my life have been as profound as coming to know you and falling in love with you: accepting Christ in my life, and my son – the first human being who ever caused me to speak the words “I love you”, uncontrollably and totally unsolicited – being born. When you touch me, it’s as if I morph into a different being; at that moment my essence is consumed with you and all I want to do in that moment is freely express how I feel about you, to declare to the world that I’m yours and you are mine…to connect as one being, unlimited in our expression of love for one another. I love you for what you’ve given me, for what I’ve become, and I thank God for bringing you into my life.

My goal now is to highlight our relationship where ever I go, to allow others to see what relationship with you can be like. It hasn’t always been easy for us; others have been quick to tell me what my relationship with you should be like, to tell me how I should publicly display my affection for you. They fail to realize that to adopt their philosophy makes my “personal” relationship with you impersonal because by doing so the relationship is no longer mine, it’s theirs.

I promise to be right here, with you, loving you…nurturing you and caring for you with all of the love I can muster. You bring out the best in me. You make me want to be better. You’re patient with me. You respect what I give to you and you make me reach deeper to give you more. You allow others to witness the impact you’ve made in my life and the acknowledgement of your daily influence is met with appreciation from every person who has showered me with compliments on “how well we look when we’re together”.

Who would’ve thought that a simple dance could evoke such strong emotions? It has done just that for me since that fateful night at the Willowbrook Grand Ballroom in Willow Springs, IL in March of 2003. I’ve learned to accept this reality, so it is what it is for me and it’s alright with me now. I love Steppin’, I truly, truly do, and I’ll continue to love her as long as there is life in my body. And I won’t allow anyone, not anyone at all, to come between us and what we have. Steppin’…I love you. I need you. You complete me. When I’m away from you, I miss you more than I can bear. That’s real. That’s where I am. It’s my reality and it’s alright. We’re committed to one another…partners…for the rest of our lives!!
I LOVE STEPPIN’…I LOVE STEPPIN’…I REALLY, REALLY, REALLY LOVE STEPPIN!!!


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2 thoughts on “An All-Consuming Love Affair…

  • MYNolan

    Victor,
    I really appreciate you and your love for this dance! It’s 1:30 a.m. and I am just getting in from the Esquire’s Fusion dance event in Duncanville, Texas. And I just had to express my gratitude before I retired for the night. I appreciate that you practice what you preach. Your passion for this dance is contagious and has touched me and quite a few others here in Dallas! Because you were gracious and all inclusive, dancing with many women at this event, (like myself), you have given an injection of pleasure, confidence we so sorely needed back into this dance! You made us feel like “Steppers!” And, so did Lisa as she danced with the fellows! Many of us started out as swing out dancers in Dallas, our “home” dance. And many of us went back to swing out as a result of poor experiences that rocked our confidence. I watched both you and Lisa; and everyone who danced with you and your partner left with smiles of confidence and renewed spirit for this dance style. Also, after being exposed to you (and some other Chicago Stepping Experts), you make me want to do better and not give up. I am a convert and while I still love my first dance “swing-out” …, I absolutely LOVE Chicago Stepping because I crossed paths with wonderful folks like you and your partner, Lisa. I look forward to your return to the DFW area! Peace, Light and safe travels back to your home….Yolanda Nolan

    • Victor A. James Sr. Post author

      Thank you so much Yolanda and it was fun having a private session with you. Your enthusiasm is so refreshing and you’re such a quick learner. I’m glad I was able to help you regain your love for Steppin and I’m glad I was able to dance with you Saturday night too! I’ll see you on the wood in the “D” very soon!